How To Ask a Girl to Homecoming

Tuxedo? Check. Dinner reservations and after party plans? Check, check. Date? What, you need a date for these things too?

Asking a girl to accompany you to homecoming can be more frightening than getting a molar pulled. With a little planning and creativity, though, asking will be simple and enjoyable.

 

1. It's not what you know, but who you know: Your perfect idea of a date might be the pretty girl that sits in front of you in math class. However, if you have never spoken a word to her besides the occasional, "Can I borrow a pencil," then your chances with her a slim. Even if she did agree to go with you, would you be comfortable taking a complete stranger? So unless you have a month or more to slowly get to know her, your best bet would be to ask a girl that you know, even if it is just as friends. The girl never to ask is the one with a boyfriend or date already.
2. Timing is everything: Hopefully you have not waited until the last minute to ask a girl. Girls are plan-ahead creatures. If you wait too long due to fear or laziness, you will find that most of the girls have dates. Give yourself plenty of time. The best time to ask a girl is anywhere from a month to two weeks before homecoming.
3. Creativity triumphs: Your chances of getting a "yes" might increase immensely with the help of a little creativity. Think about any romantic comedy you were forced to watch. There was at least one time in one movie that the actor asked the girl out or told her his feelings in a cheesy way. Many girls love this! You do not have to go Nicholas Sparks on her. Some ideas are to hang a poster, spell it out in her favorite candy or candles, make her go on a scavenger hunt, or bring her a rose.

   The girl you want to ask may prefer a less dramatic approach, another reason why it's important to know her prior to asking. When it comes to wording, you could ask her as casually as possible. The simple line, "I was wondering if you would like to go to prom with me," works great. Regardless how you choose to ask, the important thing is that the expression be genuine.

4. When all you get is a "no": Sometimes a "no" is inevitable. It happens to the best of us. The best thing to do is to smile at her and tell her you understand. Don't get discouraged! If you know another girl that you would like to take, feel free to ask her. Ask the other girl on a different day and in a different way. If there's no one at school or outside of school that you feel the desire to ask, then go alone. There is nothing wrong with going to homecoming by yourself. There are actually some benefits to flying solo for the night! You will save money, wear whatever colors you want, and be able to dance with whomever you choose. 
5. Whether you get the girl or not, remember to have fun!

         

It is that time of year again.  Birds are chirping, the sun is shining, flowers are blooming, and young men all across the nation are anxiously anticipating the moment they have to lay it all on the table and ask a girl to prom.

Here are some tips to make the experience as painless as possible for you.

1. First figure out what kind of a prom night you want to have.  Do you want to go with a friend or a girlfriend?  Is the evening going to be a casual one or a romantic one?  This is extremely important to determine because it affects how you will ask that special someone to prom.

    

2. If you decide to have a more casual evening, asking a friend to prom should be as painless as possible.  Pick a friend that you know will be a fun date.
   • Pull her aside during lunch one day or after school.  Simply lay it out there that you believe that the two of you could have a really fun time at prom together as friends.  It is essential that you say "as friends" so that she doesn't take the invitation as a date.  Going as friends means that you will be sharing the costs of the evening and it will be pressure-free for both of you.

      

3. If the object of your desire is not your girlfriend, but you want her to be your date for prom, this is where it can get slightly complicated.
   • First of all, make sure that you know this girl; she is going to be your date for an event that requires parents getting together, lots of pictures, and a lot of money being spent.  Before asking her to prom, ask her out on a date, take her out to coffee, to dinner, and gauge her interest in both prom and you.  If, after your date, you believe she is interested in you, go ahead and ask her.  If you have doubts, use the fact that you are still in high school and work the friend network.  Ask her friends what she is thinking to save you the possible embarrassment of getting rejected.

      

   • Once you know that she is interested in going to prom with you, get creative with how you ask her.  You can surprise her with the invitation to prom or you can be straightforward in asking her.  When you do ask her, be clear that you are seeing the evening as a date.  Tell her that you think she is a beautiful girl. and that you really would like to take her to prom.  Let her know that she is special in your eyes.  Girls appreciate sincerity and as long as you are genuine with her, she will say yes and the two of you will have a wonderful time.
4. If you already have a girlfriend here is how you should ask her.
   • Take her out to dinner one night and tell her that you cannot imagine prom night without her and that you would be honored if she went with you.  Make sure she knows that you see the evening as a special event for the two of you.  Brownie points go to boys who bring flowers and make the actual question a special event.  Just remember, girls go crazy over things like proms and doing your part to make it as memorable as possible will only pay off for you in the long run as her boyfriend.

      

Good luck to all of you boys out there.  Just remember, be clear with your intentions and make sure that she is interested in going to the prom with you.  You want your date to be someone who will make the night fun for you, not a drama-fest.  Happy Hunting.